If you’re keeping count, I have been living in San Diego for a whole 16 days, and l have to tell you, it has been nothing short of amazing. The idea of picking up and relocating to a strange new city where you don’t know a soul sounds scary to some, but even after just these 2 weeks, I think it is something everyone should experience. I’m still a newbie and tomorrow I may be crying and wanting to go back to the east coast, but right now I am on the high of this adventure, so here are a few things I have learned so far –
Do something. I am a happy girl curled up on the couch watching Parenthood all day long, but that’s not why I’m here. The hardest part is simply getting up and forcing yourself to do something when it’s not required or you aren’t on a schedule (hello, funemployment!), but it just takes that one step, and you never know where you’ll end up.
Talk to people. Everyone has a story and almost everyone is willing to tell you about it. I have met people all across the board and although I will never see the majority of them again, they have all added to my experience. None of that would have happened if I didn’t make the effort to say a lame opening line to start a conversation or vice versa.
It’s okay to be alone. I have never had an issue going places alone, and at home I actually enjoyed doing it once in a while, but when you’re surrounded by your family and friends, the need to do that is never really there. Clearly out here I am getting a whole lot of time for me, myself & I, and it has been surprisingly fun. I have gone to lunch, eaten froyo, experienced the nightlife, visited beaches, attended happy hours and joined a beer club (yeah yeah yeah I’m a lush) all by myself, and it hasn’t been uncomfortable or depressing — it’s been exciting and bold and has allowed me to view my surroundings in a different light. You notice people you normally wouldn’t, you wonder about them, you talk to them and you grow. There’s a very high chance I would have missed out on a lot of my recent experiences if I was gabbing on about shopping with a friend……. I actually don’t really talk about shopping all that much, but I’m drawing a blank on what I “gab” about. Running? Yeah.
Say yes. This was something my friend Sara told me when I moved out here. She advised me to always say yes (unless an old man in a van is offering you candy and a free ride down to Tijuana) because that’s how you gain new experiences and new relationships. I have gone to concerts, a BBQ, a baseball game**, etc. all because I did something and talked to someone and said “yes.”
So in short, my only advice I can give you right now is to find those new experiences for yourself. You don’t have to be overdramatic like me and move over 3,000 miles away, but push yourself out of your comfort zone and open yourself up to new and different opportunities.
Well, there’s my philosophical rant. I will return to regularly scheduled running and food jargon tomorrow.
What is the boldest thing you have done?
What are your thoughts on eating, seeing a movie, going to a bar alone?
**we ended up at the bar next to the stadium instead of inside